Who you are… creates your life

“People do not need to behave a certain way for you to be happy… YOU need to behave a certain way for YOU to be happy.” These words of wisdom were trash to me a few years ago. “So, I should let people treat me however they want and smile anyway,” was my understanding of it all. “No, if they’re going to be jerks, I’m going to be an even bigger jerk.”
Only God knows just how exhausting that lifestyle was.
When I started working in ABA therapy, a kid came up to me, punched me and bit me, and my trainer said, “don’t react, just block it.” My immediate thought was “I’m just supposed to let this kid get away with doing this to me? How is he ever going to learn?”
Long story short, the first few months were filled with getting wacked, punched, kicked, bitten, spat on, and a whole bunch of other stuff. But, a year of consistent blocking, ignoring, and then redirecting how he should handle his emotions and communication with me… it was rare to see him get upset or furthermore attempt to hurt me. (Today’s work and patience creates a better future. Giving in to make the moment “easier” creates a tougher future)
One thing that I learned is that reacting to another person’s behavior is SO stressful and draining. Life is so much easier when you just don’t react. Why punish ourselves for the behavior of others?

Reacting usually seems like the right decision for the moment. It seems it will solve our problem for that very instant… but it won’t. It’s a waste of time and energy. And I am extremely literal about the “waste of time” part. If you knew you were going to die at the end of the week… would you truly be spending your time reacting to another person’s negative behavior toward you? I doubt it. Choose to live cheesy. “I might die at the end of the week, so, I don’t have time for this.”
I connected the dots to a Bible verse that says, “33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Which is what God is advising for us to do because “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (He advises us of the heart problems and gives us the solution by telling us to focus and what to focus on 😉 we serve a loving and wise God)
When someone is attempting to hurt us, are careless with how they treat us, or are creating anger in us… our emotions do get the best of us. And if we aren’t careful, we react on our emotions which then leads us to a form of regret. We have to be careful, cautious, and conscious about our emotions and who/what is being in charge. So, who/what is usually in charge of you? The truth of the person you are? Or the person that your emotions want you to be?
Focusing on Christ, His kingdom, and righteousness is a guide for everything. If you’ve been betrayed, lied to, hurt, abandoned, cheated, or anything else in that subject, it can create you to be someone you were not meant to be (As does media, music, magazines, and so on. Not that it’s bad, just have to be careful on what they make you believe you and your life should be like.) God did not create us to be cold or cautious in fear because of how others have treated us. He created us to be smart, creative, loving, and courageous. As we focus on Him, we remember WHO we are as HE handles everything else in life for us (jobs, relationships, finances.)

It all narrows down to “Who you are, creates your life.” For example: If you’re persistent and consistent, you will reach that goal. If you are lazy and careless, then you won’t be reaching any goals. You have all the freedom in the world to choose who to be. No-one can take that from you unless YOU allow it.
Don’t let anything take this truth from you. Be that person that God created you to be regardless of the behavior of others. People do not need to behave a certain way for you to be you or for you to be happy. It is your very own choice… you need to focus on how you behave for your own happiness.

Matthew 6:33
Jeremiah 17:9
Genesis 1:27

#Behavior #Inspirational #Scripture #Happiness #Focus #Joy #Faith #Love #Patience

Belief = Behavior

I’ve listened to a few songs from a music artist that goes by the name Lecrae. Many of his words have stood out to me in a way that either changed my character or helped polish it. “…and if I’m invisible to others, it’s only because their sight is limited, not my value,” These words have given me the courage to share my writings and to remind myself that my passions are valued by God. Everyone’s passions are given by God and valued by him. Whether others see value in it or not, it doesn’t take a single penny from the actual value you carry. So, let me ask, is there a power over you so much greater than God’s power within you? If you’re not sure of this answer, then sit back and observe the way you behave. Because how you behave reflects what you believe.
I ran into this question months ago and didn’t want to face answering it. It brought me out of my comfort zone. I knew once I knew the answer that I would have to do something about it. I remember watching an episode from “Touched by an Angel” when I was little and one of the lines that have stood out to me until this day has been “You can’t ruin God’s plan… you can only ruin being a part of it.” I realized a few days ago that I didn’t want to die living a settled life. I want to die knowing I accomplished everything God had planned for me. If God is for us, who can be against us? Right? I decided to change my beliefs because my behavior didn’t match what I was preaching. I hid my writings, I thought less of them, and I kept myself busy to avoid writing… “I love it, but it’s a waste of time.” That’s what I truly believed.
Now I believe that God created this passion in me to write, to share, and to love others through my writings. My behavior has changed. There is definitely a purpose and it is definitely not a waste of time… it is the most important part of my life. I write for me, I write for my daughter and nieces, I write for YOU, and I write for God.
I am human, a fearful human, and I plan on showing the world Gods power by allowing him to be my courage.

What are you passionate about?
What do you believe?

Romans 8:31
Jeremiah 29:11 (Tiffany’s favorite bible verse) (b.f.s.s.g.f.p)
Colossians 3:23
1 Corinthians 10:31

*Grammar advice/corrections welcome ☺

#Passionate #Inspiration #Scripture #Behavior #Beliefs #Writing #Value #Courage #Love

How to love

We need to know how to love regardless of our own emotions, regardless of someone’s behavior’s, regardless of someone’s opinion, and regardless of their image. Love is a choice and we need to consciously know what choices to make when facing difficulties with others and ourselves. For me, it does not boil down to religion, it boils down to having a relationship with God. A relationship takes communication such as speaking AND listening. It also takes trust, courage, and seeking to understand. Getting to know God allows us to get to know unconditional love REGARDLESS of the circumstances we are in. And no, we will never be perfect, but we can know that God’s power lies within us and we are more than able to accomplish anything God wants us to accomplish.
God loves without expectations
God disciplines out of love, not anger.
His love is patient, kind, forgiving, understanding, selfless, honest, protects, trusting, hopeful, and it always perseveres.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs, it does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth.
We must CHOOSE to do what Love is.
Focus on you being this person, not wanting someone else to be this person for you.
And, we don’t all have to be with the same religion and hold the same belief’s to know that love is the best choice to make.

1st Corinthian chapter 13
1 John 4:7-11
Romans 8: 10-20
Proverbs 18:21
Matthew 6:33

#Writing #Wisdom #Love #Relationships #Scripture #ZeroToHero